A Letter to My Future Husband: Why I've Given Up on My Search for Love. To My Dearest Future Husband,Let's just be honest here - - I always thought that if I hadn't found you by now, I'd be totally bummed out and depressed. I thought I'd be a nervous, incomplete wreck, writing this letter as I sat on my cat- infested front porch crying salty tears into a liter of cheap wine. After all, I mean, hello, I'm almost 3. Which of course, to my 2. I thought I'd have a diamond rock on my left hand, two charming young Ralph Lauren model- looking kids, and would be living in the suburbs with a golden retriever and an SUV. No doubt about it, the 2. I'm living now - - by the fact that I've somehow become a nomad- like, hippie- food- eating, yogini entrepreneur sort of person who's learned to hold tight to everything but apparent security.(And also, of course, who is still single, which may not be surprising taking into account how I tend to spend my time these days.)My 2. I've been focusing on everything but finding love and a house in the suburbs. After all, I used to have All The Things I was ? I rented it out to travel indefinitely. Well, it’s still a lot to me. Dear Word Detective: My husband and I were watching TV, and the common word “grand” was used for “one thousand dollars.” Can you tell me the origin of this usage? I have found one place. Suppression-Neutralit A Website Providing Relationship Advice Especially for the Woman Facing a Partner's Narcissism, Addictions. The Thousand-Dollar Husband (1916) >> PE. Lokalizowanie zwiastuna (trailera). Should your work if your husband make 500 000 thousand dollar a year? That corporate finance job I used to trek to every day? I quit. That TV and couch and Keurig coffeemaker I used to own? I threw them all in storage, and I honestly can't say when (or if) they'll be resurfacing. I gave him up years ago to a more well- suited woman. I gave it all up.**Ok, so maybe I kept the Keurig, but can you really blame me? But the truth is, I'm happier now than I ever was before. I drastically downsized, began living off my savings, and poured all my heart and energy and focus into two things: First, living; and second, building and growing my own labor of love - - my blog. I traveled to Thailand, to Oregon and Washington and California. I drove Scions in Hollywood and did yoga in the living room.. It is to love and appreciate the dexterity of your fingers on the keyboard and the sharpness of your mind as you build a complex Excel spreadsheet. What can I say; it's the accountant in me.) To love is to see - - to really see and to really greet - - each person you meet. To love is all this and more. To fully live, I think, is to fully love. And the truth is, in the process of learning to really live - - to experience each moment deeply, fully, completely - - I may not have found the right man yet, but that's not to say that I haven't found love. In fact, I've fallen deeply in love - - not with one man, but with life. With chopping the vegetables and washing the dishes and smiling at strangers. I've found love and contentment in the smallest, simplest things. So, yes, you could say I've fallen madly in love. Actually, scratch that. I've not fallen in love; I've learned to practice love. Because the truth is, real love isn't something passive that you . Love is a practice; it's something that you do every day, not something that you sit around and wait to show up on your doorstep in the form of one human being. Real Love lies in the act of loving, not solely in the object of the beloved. It lies in the act of loving thyself, of loving thy neighbor, and of loving this beautiful, awe- inspiring life you've been given. Mission: accomplished!)To experience love, I've found, is to practice love, and you don't have to be in a romantic relationship to practice love in its various forms. Real love extends beyond the act of simply loving one person romantically and into the realm of - - yes, I'm about to get all woo- woo on you here - - Universal Love. It's not just about finding the guy who will sweep you off your feet and bring you to your knees; it's also about loving life, appreciating each moment, and learning to give without any expectation of reward beyond the joy of the act itself. Love is not primarily a relationship to a specific person; it is an attitude, an orientation of character which determines the relatedness of a person to the world as a whole, not toward one 'object' of love. I am not looking for love in the mall, at the club or in Brad Pitt's Malibu mansion. I am no longer looking for love because I already am love. I am already practicing love. Yes; I've already found love in my life, and it is right here and right now. Now all I'm waiting on - - patiently, deliberately, and full of faith - - is you. I cannot wait - - as in, I'm, like, Tom Cruise jumping on the couch excited - - to meet you. And I'm just gonna go ahead and put this out there: Whenever the time is right for our paths to cross - - should it be in 5 days, 5 years, or 5 lifetimes - - I think I'm finally ready. Bring it on. Love,Therese. This post originally appeared on The Unlost.
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